I recently told a woman in a public place that she was beautiful. I described this encounter in an earlier blog post. This is what recently happened regarding that.
I was back at the same place, once again waiting for my number to be called. This time I was in uniform, and sometimes people say I look different out of uniform. I approached her and smiled, as I said "I'm sorry if I embarrassed you or offended you the last time we spoke". She had no idea what I was talking about. "I'm the guy who came to your window here and told you that you are beautiful. I'm sorry if I upset you".
She smiled very big and replied "I didn't recognize you in uniform, no you didn't offend me, it was very nice of you to say that and it really made my day".
I said "People should do that more often, say what is on their mind and be polite to others. I didn't mean to put you on the spot or anything, I just wanted you to know that I think you are very pretty".
"Thank you"
I finished my business with her window and left knowing that I didn't come off like some sleezy guy trying to illicit a date or hit on someone who didn't want to be bothered while conducting business. I feel that I did make her smile and I didn't come out the wrong way. I wasn't interested in dating her or being anything more than a customer at her window. I just felt the urge to say that I thought she was pretty. She didn't misunderstand me and she was happy for the compliment.
In all the time I have been working on my social anxiety, I think that this was probably the best interaction I have had. It was with a complete stranger, and I'm so glad for that. Be real with yourself about how you feel. Be truthful to yourself about who you are and what you feel. Then, when you feel ready to, try sharing that with those closest to you. If they truly care for you, they won't be upset or offended. If they truly care for you, they will be happy you shared. No matter how crazy you think your thoughts may be, I bet you aren't alone in thinking them. The difference is having the courage to tell people. It's outside the comfort zone for sure, but that's where the magic happens.
Thank you all and have a great weekend.
Almost as hard as accepting a compliment is giving one from the heart as you did! Good for you. I hope your weekend is wonderful as well
ReplyDeleteI sincerely hope you are enjoying your weekend. I'm doing all right.
ReplyDeleteWonderful! Koodoos to you. My daddy could do a "wolf" whistle that would make a woman stand straigher and walk with her head held high, like she was floating on air. I've heard other men who do it and it sounds vulgar like they are trying to drag you through the mud. Tone of voice and how much space you invade say as much as your words.
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Life & Faith in Caneyhead
Barbara, Thanks for your comment, your father seems like the kind of "old dog" I would get along with. Bless You, Your Father, and all of us who try our best to flatter Women without degrading them.
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